Suffering in life is inevitable BUT MISERY IS AN OPTION.
What creates misery out of suffering? (1) Self-pity; and (2) The inability to deal with the strong emotions that suffering provokes.
(1) Self-pity is as paralysing as depression. The answer to self-pity is “Tough shit!”, which evokes laughter.
(2) Almost all emotions if mishandled can cause suffering. The main emotions that provoke suffering are anger, sadness, pain, fear, anxiety.
In my book, John Wayne and the Fierce Kuga-Kugas, you will find ways to begin putting emotions in some kind of balance.
If that doesn’t help you may need professional assistance.