It’s fine to be a nice person —
Too nice is when you have to make everyone happy and cannot say no when you really want to say no.
Everyone else’s response to you is more important than your response to yourself, to your values, your wants, even your self-interest.
Your self-esteem stays weak and low.
Bullies, manipulators and controllers will sense who you are. They will take advantage of you. You become a victim.
The genuinely nice part of you suffers from anxiety, depression, self-doubt.
How do you get out of this?
Here are some suggestions to get you started.
When you are asked to do anything, slow down your response.
“I’ll think about it.”
“I’ll let you know tomorrow.”
In your mind, say no and then say yes. Sense your inner compass, your inner response.
If you said yes, but intuitively felt connected to no, be aware but don’t attack yourself. You are making the first healing step.
If you spot a person in the street who seems very powerful, imagine saying no to them.
Go into the woods and shout NO! to the universe.
Yes has no meaning.
Yes is a self-sabotage unless you are free to honour your No.